Wedding preparations

Just one week to go and I’ll be a married woman. We had about three months to prepare for our big day. Most people take up a year to plan a wedding. So how did we do this and how did it go? 

Our plan was to have a very small wedding, but after looking at the guests we wanted to invite the wedding got a big bigger. It’s still not a huge wedding and pretty small, but I guess it also depends on who you ask. My soon to be husband is Turkish and a Turkish wedding usually starts with 300 guests and can be double or triple the amount of people. 

We decided to do ours a lot smaller since that is simply our preference and we have other big things to prepare for .. like our baby boy! So how did all of the preparations go and did we finish? Well we got engaged in the middle of October en started planning the wedding in November. We then decided on the date and found a location quickly after.

The wedding venue is an old farm and has a rustic feel to it. I like a bohemian style and my sweet fiancé loved it too, so that was settled quickly. The venue also does the catering and we can both have the ceremony there and the party at night. They would even help out with the decorations and recommended a place for the wedding cake. 

We might be very “simple” in the way that we immediately liked all choices presented to us, but it just made it a lot easier. We made small alterations to the dinner choices, but that was about it. Something that seemed more challenging was to find a wedding dress. Since I’m now more than 6 months pregnant I had to find one that would fit my growing belly. 

When my first pick of the dress (I found it online) wasn’t in stock I had to look for another one. The second pick was even better and fits perfectly. I tried it on again yesterday and it stills fits the way it should. My shoes were given to me from long time friends of my mom (they’re like family honestly) and guess what!? The shoes carry my names! I got two different pairs and what are the odds of all the names in the world that these have mine. 

So as you can probably tell planning and arranging everything went quite smoothly. We were also very lucky to receive help from friends and family. My fathers wife helped with the organisation and pointed out a lot of things that we wouldn’t have thought about. One of my best friends is helping me with my hair for the big day and one of my other best friends together with my mom helped to make the wedding favours for the guests. 

Another huge thing and something very special is that my grandfathers jazz band will be taking care of the music. Yes, you are reading it correctly. My grandfather who is almost 81 years old is a drummer in a jazz band. Looking at everything we’ve done and that will happen it will definitely be a day we’ll always remember. And of course the most important part of all is that I’ll get to marry my best friend and the love of my life. 

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Celebrating one year of blogging!

Of course I do! I must admit in the beginning I was super strict and hard on myself. For example I couldn’t skip one week of blogging and I had to find the perfect picture to match the story. I’m not that good with pictures yet, so especially finding the perfect image was a challenge. I created all this extra stress for myself which robbed me from the fun I was having writing.

In the beginning of my blogging-journey I posted every Tuesday (sometimes on Wednesday), but I realized that wasn’t the ideal day for me. Even though posting on this day was challenging I forced myself to do it anyway. Why did I do that? I wanted a set date every week, but it didn’t have to be Tuesday. When I switched the day up for Thursday I had so much more time to write and felt way better doing so.IMG_7664
Something that I was asked a lot is if it’s hard to find a topic to write about. Well when I started out it was a bit harder to find a good topic. In my case I really have to ‘feel’ the subject I want to write about. Once I have this ‘feeling’ it takes me a train ride to work to finish the blog. The more I wrote the more topics I began to find. Suddenly everything could be a new blog. When I became more aware of my authentic style I saw a potential story in almost anything.

So practice really makes perfect. I am in no way saying my writing is perfect, but I found the perfect way to write. I found a day of posting my blog which works for me, I got better practice with selecting nice pictures and I found my own style of writing. I noticed that when I started I’d put a lot of pressure on myself for no good reason. The point of writing is to enjoy myself, to have an outlet for my creativity.

What have I learned over this year? Relax and enjoy what you do. That was my point all along anyway. I’ll do my best to post a story every week, but on holidays or when I’m sick I just might have to skip a week. I learned to stay true to why I write and that is because I simply love writing. I’m also very thankful for all of the reactions I’ve gotten over the past year. It’s so nice to connect with people all over the world and share thoughts. So thank you and here’s to one more year of blogging!

 

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Being the Bridesmaid

One year ago my friend got the cutest puppy. Of course I had to meet the little fur-baby, so after getting him she and her boyfriend came over. She then randomly showed me her phone with a video of how they got him. And then I saw it! It wasn’t about her holding  puppy in the video, but about her boyfriend getting on one knee!

I was so thrilled for her and of course I cried some happy tears. Soon after we went wedding dress shopping with her mom and her bridesmaid. At that time we actually didn’t know we were going to be bridesmaids. After the dress shopping we all went for dinner and she handed us a card in which she asked ‘Will you be my bridesmaid?’. It was so cute and of course we said yes.

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But let’s not forget about the dress. It such a special moment when you see one on your best friends in a gorgeous wedding dress. After all the years of dating, heartache, finding the right one, moving in together to then finally saying I do. She was glowing and looked happy and I couldn’t wait until she could wear it again for real.

Obviously we also organized her bachelorette party. Living in the Netherlands the place to go is Amsterdam. So that’s what we did. We made her do ‘not too’ embarrassing assignments, went to a museum (ok, the sex-museum), got dinner, sang a song in the karaokebar and then went dancing for one more time. We laughed, we drank and we danced.

Our bridesmaids chores continued on the day itself. In the meantime we got our own dresses, the right shoes, a purse and our dates. And then it was time. The day had arrived. My friend picked me and the other bridesmaid up. In the car our fun started and at the location we got glammed up. We even wore special robes with ‘Bride’ and ‘Bridesmaid’ on it. What followed was a beautiful ceremony (of course I cried again), a lovely dinner and then it was time to dance again.

Our dates arrived and we did the last things we had to do as bridesmaids. After that we all went dancing and it was amazing to see my friend that happy. The whole day went perfect. After months of preparation it was the most perfect day she deserved. Everyone seemed happy and smiling. To top it off their opening dance was the best thing ever. They even practiced it together beforehand, how cute is that!

It seems a lot of time and effort to invest in one day. However after a day like that it doesn’t seem like just a day. It really is a day you’ll never forget. With words of love, all smiles, kindness in their eyes and their hearts filled with hope for a beautiful future. It was the perfect start of a life together or to continue their journey with a huge milestone in between. I’m glad and grateful I got to witness it all up close.